PAA Daily Blog – Byteing Back

Our PAA symbol has five sides-
Unity
Service
Truth
Recovery
Freedom

What do they represent?

It is a “WE” program.

With Unity, we get Service, which gives us the courage to seek the Truth, so that we can begin the Journey of Recovery towards the life of Freedom from PA.

Through the admission of powerlessness in the first step, “We admitted…”, we get Unity.

Together we do service by sharing our experience, strength and hope with each other, setting up meetings, sponsoring, helping others and other PA’s and other actions which support Unity. As we build on the previous foundations, we ask god for the courage to find our truth by going through the steps to recovery that leads to freedom from porn addiction.

Uncovering the falsehoods about some belief behind the triggers are our goal. We have a power greater than ourselves that we can turn to in our times of weakness, strength and need.

The shame and fear of being found out about our “secret” addiction is what perhaps keeps the cycle going and keeps us from healthy relationship with others – sexual or otherwise.

Behind that is a fear of rejection: not being able to please someone, and not being good enough. This also leads to placing more power on someone else’s opinion of ourselves over our own.

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What happens if we falter? Get weak? Fail?

We ask god in a simple way to take us back to our path – the path that we and our higher power have started to walk. We must turn from the selfish indulgences of shame, guilt, fear and remorse. They only make the thinking worse.

We can pray and take action to help others.

The third step prayer for PAA can be helpful when used daily:

We let go, and we we let god take us to the place he needs us to be in.

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One day free from addiction is a goal.

As we hear in almost all 12-step programs, “One day at a time”.

We can do almost anything one day at a time. If we leave tomorrow to God, and yesterday in the past, we can stay in the moment.

In the moment that we are in, we can change our thinking and actions by turning them over to a higher power and not doing harmful actions to ourselves or anyone around us.

As we stop thinking about our addiction and the behavior moment by moment and focus on the rest of our lives, the obsession lifts.

Soon, we have met our goal of one more day day addiction free, just letting God handle the moments.

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Sometimes we feel like we will never accomplish our goals. Success seems far away. But like any major undertaking, each small step leads to the larger goal.

Whatever we are looking to accomplish, no matter how large or small the goal might be, it is done through groups of small actions that together achieve the result.

Small actions add up.

If we want recovery in our addiction, we must take abstinence in small chunks of life…one second, one minute, one hour, one day at a time. Through the process we learn patience with ourselves and with our higher power.

Could any of us have believed that ONE day was possible when we started?

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